Dec 8: Cameron Carr, On Terminals and Turning Pages

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On Terminals and Turning Pages

Cameron Carr

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“An hour, once it lodges in the queer element of the human spirit, may be stretched to fifty or a hundred times its clock length; on the other hand, an hour may be accurately represented on the timepiece of the mind by one second. This extraordinary discrepancy between time on the clock and time in the mind is less known than it should be and deserves fuller investigation.” —Virginia Woolf

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London: July 18-21

George Eliot is going to ruin Christmas, but right now it’s still summer, I have not lost two and a half days of my life trying to travel internationally during the largest IT outage in history, I have not used Delta’s paltry apology flight credits to subsidize my Christmas flights, and I have not read any of Middlemarch. Yet I insist it is important to see George Eliot’s grave while visiting my partner’s twin sister in London, because we happen to be in George Eliot’s cemetery, and she is someone I see as important, like I have to use her full name on every reference. But though it feels important to see her grave, none of us have read any George Eliot. I take a quick photo of the tombstone and we move on. Later, we visit a bookstore and my partner’s sister buys a copy of Eliot’s—George Eliot’s—Middlemarch. I consider getting one too, but say I’ll check it out from the library instead, maybe because I don’t feel like carrying its 800-some pages with me while I travel. I promise to have it read by Christmas though, so we can talk about it when we see each other next.

     Three days later, I leave England alone, starting on foot from a cottage on the outskirts of Bath at 5 a.m. London time. I follow the Avon River toward the station where I’ll catch a train to London before taking the tube to the airport. On my flight to Atlanta, the attendants serve “Mile High Tea”: two varieties of triangular sandwiches with cream cheese fillings between crustless bread, a scone with jam and “clotted cream” (whatever that means), and a cocoberry blush chocolate truffle. The whole trip is wholesome and delightful.

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Atlanta: July 21-22

Until landing, when the pilot announces our luggage had been left in the U.K. Then the flight delays begin. Soon my connection to Tucson is canceled with no replacement. An hour later, a Delta customer service representative tells me the earliest available flight is in three days and there are no open hotels, not that Delta would pay for one anyway. She recommends I “find a corner and curl up.”

     I don’t curl up in a corner for the night. I spend the next two hours on Delta customer service hold, standing in line for another Delta customer service counter while thoroughly reviewing the official Delta Cancellations and Refunds policies, before booking a budget hotel. It takes ninety seconds to walk from the back of the line to the front. I know because I filmed it on my way out. Tomorrow, people will tell me they waited six hours.

     It’s 11:12 p.m. when I start for the hotel. However, the Plane Train is out of service, meaning I have to walk from the international terminal in F Concourse to the rideshare pickup zone “a short walk from North and South baggage claim,” at the opposite end, long ways, of the 6.8 million-square-foot terminal complex. Despite my phone dying two minutes before my scheduled pickup time, I manage to find my driver at 1:23 a.m. local time—or, 6:23 a.m. London time, thirteen hours after I began my journey—three hours after I had expected to be home.

     I will not dwell on my hotel stay beyond saying that there were cigarette holes in my comforter, my room’s door lock did not seem to work, and complimentary breakfast consisted of a drawer of white bread. My aim here is not to complain. My aim here is not to badmouth Delta. (I did eventually receive reimbursement for all my additional expenses, though not for my time.) My aim here is to confess that I love the airport, and that I even loved the fourteen hours I spent in the Hartsfield-Jackson Atlanta International Airport the next day. By 8 a.m., I had Taco Bell and Virginia Woolf’s Orlando open at a seat between two tables filled with families sleeping face down on their folded arms. It was great, if I didn’t think about it too much.  

     “The philosopher is right who says that nothing thicker than a knife’s blade separates happiness from melancholy,” Woolf writes early in Orlando. I think she means that happiness can be split easily by melancholy, but I find it true too that sometimes melancholy is capable of cutting quick to happiness. Though a part of me did wish that before leaving London I had gotten a copy of Middlemarch to read.

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Phoenix: November 27

Which is why I am carrying Middlemarch with me now, four months later, on the pre-Thanksgiving drive from Tucson to the Phoenix airport: because I do some of my best reading in the airport and because I’m running out of time to read this book before Christmas. In truth, an airport is one of my favorite places to read—in truth, I generally like being in airports, which I know is not a universal feeling. But I like airports because in them I get to be somewhat untethered, which is maybe a strange thing to say about a place where it is prohibited to leave your personal and/or carry-on items unattended, but it’s how I feel. 

     Airports are liminal spaces, between two modes of existence. On one end there are the stresses of work, chores, errands, making food, cleaning up. On the other end, particularly with holidays and visiting family, there are the stresses of sleeping on couches and deservedly retired pillows, waking on someone else’s schedule, eating an unfamiliar diet, performing a select and approachable version of oneself, performing a constantly sociable and friendly version of oneself. However much I identify with these complaints (if you’re reading this Joe and Paige: sleeping in Zion’s bed actually rocked, and had I not known it was meant for a two-year-old, I wouldn’t have guessed it—though the log cabin-style safety railings (cute!) are a bit of a giveaway), however much ordinary life is a burden or vacation is an escape, I know that between these I will have the airport. 

     In an airport I feel I can be left alone, or I feel that it is reasonable to dwell alone when surrounded by people and commotion, which makes it a good place to read. Maybe sometimes it is hard to read without a timer, or sometimes it is hard to read when I’m always checking a timer. At the airport, the staff make an overhead announcement when it’s time for me to stop reading and start boarding, which really only means that I have to stop sitting and start reading standing up, which sometimes I do anyways because I get stiff sitting in the airport and on the airplane and in the car. In an airport, I seem to float, untethered from time—at least between TSA and final boarding.

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Detroit: November 27

But at Thanksgiving, things are not working out. The first problem is Brett. My stupid brother with his stupid idea that we align our connecting flights and his stupid Delta Sky Club membership with its stupid free buffet and its stupid luxury seating.

     By the time I land in Detroit and find the Sky Club, Brett is already a few drinks deep. For some reason, everything is hued with green: his green Outdoor Voices hat, gray quarter-zip with green interior trim, olive pants. Even the Sky Club’s leather seats are a dark green—emerald almost. “I think,” says Middlemarch’s Dorothea as she and her sister compare the gems in their dead mother’s jewelry, “emerald is more beautiful than any of them.” She offers her sister all of it—except the emeralds. “They look like fragments of heaven,” she says, which is what my brother seems to think of the Delta Sky Club: a fragment of heaven, with its free drinks, free buffet, members-only access, elevated seating, elevated location. After entering, the doors close behind us and we start up an escalator—to heaven. 

     Inside, at the summit, we can only see the people in the terminal below, not hear them, which I realize is what I like: being in a place among people. I like reading in airports in the mutual discomfort of the terminal, all of us out of our element, waiting. It is a wonder we do not call airport terminals waiting rooms. Instead we call them terminals: ends. I do not go to airports for ends.

     When we board our late-night flight to Buffalo, I can’t get the reading light to work. I fumble in the dark until I accidentally press the call light as we begin takeoff and a weary flight attendant announces to the whole plane that “we are not able to come to you at this time, please press your call button again to turn off the call light.” So I don’t read. George Eliot sits in the dark. 

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Buffalo / Corning / Ellicottville: November 28-30

The next problem is Thanksgiving. No one wants you to sit quietly and read at a family gathering. So I don’t.

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Detroit: December 1

By Sunday, when Brett and I part ways back in Detroit, I’m only halfway through book two—there are eight “books” within Middlemarch, each around one hundred pages—but Christmas décor is “spreading itself everywhere like a disease of the retina.” On my flight to Phoenix, Christmas nears and ominous debts are coming due. It is just three days after Thanksgiving, but as I find a bench just shy of baggage claim, I fear that George Eliot is bound to ruin Christmas.

     Middlemarch isn’t really my type of book. I don’t always love the nineteenth-century novel, or realism, or English aristocracy, or the classics. But I like reading it anyways, trying it at least. A good book can be a gate, because it opens to something or somewhere. And really it would be more accurate to place my airport reading there—not at a terminal, but a gate, the place where I do most of my waiting. A gate leads to something. And that’s why I read a book, especially a brick-sized one like Middlemarch (modular brick dimensions: 3.625” x 2.25” x 7.625”; Middlemarch Penguin Classics dimensions: 5.1” x 1.4” x 7.75”): to see where it might take me. That’s also why I like, sometimes, to be out in a place, among other beings, waiting at a gate. And if you know where you’re going, if you’ve already been there, if you’ve got a cozy corner with your name on it and some throw pillows indented with your body, if nothing is uncertain or unknown or open-ended, is it really a gate?

     Still, in case I don’t like Middlemarch, I also packed my annotated copy of Tone by Sofia Samatar and Kate Zambreno, maybe because I want to think about what the tone inside an airport is, and I remember that Samatar and Zambreno, calling themselves the Committee to Investigate Atmosphere, are interested in the tones of spaces and in tones as spaces. “Tone is a window one looks out of and also a window one looks into,” they write. A window, like a sort of gate, an opening, an end of one space that is the beginning of another, a between, a joining. 

     “We were drawn to the subject of tone,” their committee writes, “because its vibrations informed us that we belonged to it; it did not belong to us.”

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Atlanta: July 22 / Nashville: July 22-23 / Salt Lake City: July 23 / Phoenix: July 23 / Tucson: July 23

Which is what the Hartsfield-Jackson Atlanta International Airport informs me. When I settle into the pre-terminal food court the morning after my arrival, I still have more than twelve hours till my next flight—twelve hours to wait, living in this tone. And then I have a layover, a couple flight delays, a final flight around 12:30 a.m. (that’s Nashville time—in London it is 6:30 a.m., more than 48 hours after I first left). But to get home Tuesday morning instead of Wednesday night I had to fly to Phoenix instead of Tucson, and the flight delays mean I’ve missed the last Greyhound, so when I land at 2 a.m. Arizona time (which is 5 a.m. for the eastern U.S., which is 10 a.m. for the U.K., which is all irrelevant to my body’s loss of any sense of time or functional circadian rhythm), I still have two hours to wait before the two-hour ride to Tucson before the thirty-minute walk to my apartment. From England, my partner texts me pictures of a cloudy morning tour of the Roman baths in Bath. Meanwhile, I slouch at a metal table and read Virginia Woolf’s fictional biography of Orlando. Over the course of a few hundred years—from the 1500s into 1928—he becomes she, carriages become motor cars, and Orlando ages from sixteen to thirty-eight. When, for Orlando, the clock struck four (p.m., London), “she kept…complete composure.” When, for me, the clock strikes four (a.m., Phoenix), I drool onto a Greyhound bus. For both of us, time passes in strange ways. We are “braced and strung up by the present moment.” I hardly sleep. I read. I wait.

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Somewhere: Sometime: I Don’t Know: Does It Really Matter?

Back—forward—at the Phoenix airport in late November, I wait for a friend to pick me up. I read Middlemarch, still with hundreds of pages to go. Will George Eliot ruin Christmas? I’m not sure. The first Christmas passed without event, but later Christmases within the book will be “threatening” and “dreary,” though I haven’t really read those pages yet, they’re in book seven and I’m still on book three. Right now, I’m just peeking ahead.

     My phone buzzes. My friend says she’s close, so I walk outside.

     The clock strikes twelve on Orlando as “the cold breeze of the present brushe[s] her face with its little breath of fear.”

     From the Greyhound window, I watch the rising sun make mountains into blush-backed silhouettes.

     In the final lines, George Eliot swears that “the growing good of the world is partly dependent on unhistoric acts.” She offers tribute to “the number who lived faithfully a hidden life, and rest in unvisited tombs.”

     At George Eliot’s grave, I walk away.

     In Tucson, at 7 a.m., more than two and a half days after leaving London, I step inside my door.

     Stepping outside, at the Phoenix airport, I watch a man scream into the passenger door of a stopped car. Only after a few unmeasurable moments does it become clear that he’s yelling “BACK UP! MY FOOT! MY FOOT!” No one knows what to do after the car rolls back and the young man leans against its side. Some people laugh and glance around complicitly. I wait for my ride. Time passes. The holiday approaches. We open the next door.

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Cameron Carr is a writer from Ohio. His writing appears in Longreads, The Missouri Review, The Hedgehog Review, and elsewhere.

Dec 7: Leah Mensch, Hard Evidence Had Nothing to Do with My Life

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Hard Evidence Had Nothing to Do with My Life

Leah Mensch

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I’m on the UC San Diego campus where dirt paths weave through valleys in La Jolla pressing up against the skyline like an old lover, where gas costs five dollars a gallon and the sky is an unblemished blue, only a few miles from the ocean. Students walk around with books in their arms, jackets tied around their waists, and the renowned Theodore Geisel library stands tall over campus, like an archaic vessel anticipating its own collapse in debilitating paranoia. Most of the reading floors are similarly brutal, located underground, and the library houses its namesake’s archive—Dr. Seuss. 

     On the fourth floor, the elevator doors open and suddenly, somehow, I’m standing inside a quote. UNLESS SOMEONE LIKE YOU CARES A WHOLE AWFUL LOT, NOTHING IS GOING TO GET BETTER. IT’S NOT. This, in an aggressive red comic-sans font, is wrapped around the entire circumference of the elevator. The woman next to me coughs aggressively without covering her mouth. Seasonal allergies, she moans. Global covid spike, I think to myself. I’ve been walking in circles trying to find special collections, but I keep returning to the same place in the library over and over again, where the walls are papered with Truffula tree murals and quotes from The Lorax and Green Eggs and Ham. It’s easier to pretend an uncovered cough is making me tic than to admit the truth: this is my last-ditch attempt to find the uncut draft of Kate Braverman’s 1979 novel, Lithium for Medea. It occurred to me in the elevator that I had exhausted all other leads. What would I do if I didn’t find the draft? And what would I do if I did? I tried not to think about this. 

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The origins of my obsession with Braverman, my desire to find her manuscript, exist at once rather than separately. This started in late 2019 when Kate Braverman died in Santa Fe and left little behind. This started when her Jewish grandparents left Russia and tried to silently carve themselves new in the United States. This started when my Jewish grandparents left Iraq, when they came to the United States to forget. And this started in 1979, when Kate Braverman, so the story goes, slept with a bayonet under her bed. This was after she un-enrolled in graduate school at UC Irvine, after she flew from Los Angeles to New York to negotiate edits on her debut novel, Lithium for Medea, with Harper and Row, after her therapist allegedly told her she was too immature for love, after news spread that the Hillside Strangler was lurking around her neighborhood in Echo Park, after her cat ran away, after her father—by some sliver of a miracle—survived his recurrence of throat cancer. I doubt the bayonet had much to do with the Hillside Strangler’s proximity. At age twenty-nine, she already knows so much—too much—about the fragile sham of resurgence and free will. She grew up in the stucco slums along Sepulveda Boulevard, with a father who was perpetually swimming inside a half-life, a mother marred by Jewish inter-generational trauma and tragedy. But Kate Braverman believed herself the exception. Harper and Row had, after all, purchased Lithium for Medea on proposal, without even seeing so much as a draft first. This is a feat for any writer, but virtually un-heard of for a woman in 1978 who had never before published fiction. She walked the streets of Los Angeles buying cocaine to feed her intravenous addiction, then she sat at her typewriter and wrote poems until sunrise. Sleep was extraneous back then. If you knew Kate Braverman, you feared her temper and you feared her brilliance and sometimes you feared her sanity. You might have read Lithium for Medea decades ago, or her short story “Tall Tales From the Mekong Delta” in graduate school. Her work was enduringly well received and celebrated, even if her true literary anointment never arrived. 

     I met Kate Braverman posthumously, the circumference of her life slowly clicking in and out of focus. I know her as a woman marred in human contradiction: she believed in her talent but wanted a Pulitzer nomination. She loathed and loved Los Angeles, her mother, being alive. In old photographs, she’s the street punk mythic poet, holding a cigarette more often than not, a spoon and a syringe never far away. But when I look closely, I see uncertainty in her eyes. In Braverman’s poems, this uncertainty explodes and metastasizes into something more tangible. She was afraid of her own vulnerability: “The gambler husband who got cancer. / Now this daughter,” she writes in a 1977 poem addressed to her mother. “Pale, afraid of everything, / the strange slatted trees, in the thick sunlight / A girl with nightmares and bad posture / no one will want.” [1]

Kate Braverman, 1978 [2]

The truth is, writing Lithium for Medea nearly killed Kate Braverman. The novel draft, almost entirely autobiographical—which followed a twenty-seven-year-old woman through a failing marriage, cocaine addiction, a sadistic boyfriend, a father’s cancer relapse, and a clairvoyant search for her estranged grandmother, which to me, is really a question about an ancestry with open wounds between Jewish women, which was not so much a novel as it was a three-hundred-page poem—horrified editors. They hated the title. They wanted the book cut in length by half. Why were the last sixty pages an italicized inner-monologue? Couldn’t Braverman just come to New York and negotiate the edits in person? Braverman obliged, and fought in a small Manhattan room with the editors for ten days. She won the battle over keeping the title, but took almost no other triumph back to Los Angeles. The process was so intense, Braverman alleged, that her assigned editor quit and never re-entered the industry. When Kate arrived home, she collapsed on her floor and woke up in the Cedars-Sinai ICU, IV drip cords tangled around her thin body, possibly only a few floors underneath the cancer ward where her father had spent many years of his life, sliced open like a fish, as she’d put it in Lithium for Medea. Later, in an article for West View magazine, the writer Ben Pleasants recalled seeing Kate sprawled out in bed, sweating through an unraveling pulse: This woman isn’t going to make it to thirty, he thought to himself.  

     She did make it to thirty, though. She outlived what looked like the end of herself more than once. She published ten more books, garnered a storied literary legacy and burned so many bridges she branded herself an outlaw. She had a baby and got married again and divorced again. She taught at universities across the country, sometimes got fired, sometimes quit, sometimes just disappeared. I mean this in the most literal sense. She left work and never returned. In 2019, she turned seventy in Santa Fe. Later that year, she died of cardiac arrest. 

     Braverman’s legacy is one of incomprehensible brilliance but also, institutionally, one of unhinged bad behavior. She was notoriously difficult to work with, sometimes hurt people in publishing who I believe genuinely hoped to help her, and she paid the price. But frankly, plenty of poorly behaved writers have eclipsed posthumous punishment. I don’t think Braverman’s subject matter helped her. Her work walks the thin line between reality and insanity, dipping into both unapologetically. Women get high without redemption, they abandon their children and invite stalkers into their homes. But Braverman’s work is also deeply clairvoyant, shamanistic, a work of witchcraft almost—sometimes, I think, it is impossible to grasp inside a western framework. To me, Lithium for Medea was largely about intergenerational burdens—turning toward intangible, non-western evidence to heal. The protagonist writes her cousin letters about blood truths. She says to hell with hard evidence—“hard evidence had nothing to do with my life”—and tries to beckon the god of death by killing a cat, recording the patterns repeating in her life, noting every spectral sensation. It’s no surprise to me that Harper and Row wanted significant edits. In fact, nearly fifty years later, I’m still stunned Lithium for Medea, even in its heavily edited form, ever reached publication. When Braverman died, she left little behind. It didn’t take me long to start talking to people, gathering documents, learning about her life and work. Soon enough, I was working on a book about her life. But what I really wanted, perhaps most of all, was to see the uncut version of Lithium for Medea. That’s where she really was, I thought. Or at least the version of Braverman I wanted to know. 

     It’s tempting to move toward the easy sentiment that Lithium for Medea saved me. But from what? For Braverman’s women, there is no over, no redemption, no after. There’s only a desire to feel, to take grief to the ring and declare a sword fight, knowing you won’t come away victorious. Lithium for Medea gave me, rather, a sustaining framework for my life and history. It rendered unspeakable parts of my fraught family history a narrative, even without artifacts or hard evidence. And somewhere inside narrative, Braverman taught me, healing begins. 

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After four years of searching, I realized that, if the uncut first draft of Kate Braverman’s 1979 novel Lithium for Medea still lived and breathed anywhere, I had hope of finding it in only three places: 

• Harper and Row’s archives (Columbia University)
• The Los Angeles novelist John Rechy’s archive (Texas Tech University)
• Joan Didion’s archive (New York Public Library)

Didion was an automatic dead-end. In early 2023, only a few months after her death, the New York Public Library purchased her archive. Over two hundred linear feet of boxes, it would be, at the very least, years before Didion’s papers were publicly accessible to researchers. And anyway, the chances Didion held onto an emerging writer’s 1979 draft was slim at best. Braverman and Didion, I don’t think, ever had any semblance of a relationship beyond a generous review Didion gave for Lithium for Medea. Surely the women were not in contact when Braverman died, given Braverman hadn’t said a remotely kind thing about Didion or her work in nearly three decades. And even if, by some sliver of a miracle, Didion did have the book, I’m not confident Lithium for Medea would survive the NYPL’s acquisition and appraisal process. Didion died with a legacy twice the circumference of her ninety-year life. Kate Braverman’s manuscript was a non-sequitur. 

     Columbia University’s Harper and Row papers only dated back to 1985 (Lithium for Medea was published in 1979), and when no national archival database yielded results for any papers prior to 1985, the Columbia librarian broke the news I’d been dreading most. There was a chance that Harper and Row had not kept an official archive before 1985. I found this hard to believe—I still find this hard to believe—but it’s been two years since this conversation. I reached out to other scholars and folks connected to what’s now HarperCollins, who directed me to another person, who always directed me back to Columbia University. I posted pleas on social media. But I was just running in circles. 

     Then there was John Rechy. A celebrated queer Southern California novelist, he was one of Kate’s first mentors. As right now, December 2024, he’s ninety-three years old, still living in Southern California, and nearly impossible to contact. Texas State bought his papers in 2019, but his archive isn’t yet accessible to researchers. Sometimes the estate asks for the papers to be published only posthumously, so it’s possible the university is merely holding the uncut version of Lithium for Medea in a climate-controlled box until John Rechy dies. It’s also possible there is no statute on Rechy’s archive at all and Texas Tech is just understaffed. But really, I’m just guessing. Because after a desperate email to the archivist, and two separate desperate follow-ups, I never heard back. So much of Kate Braverman’s life and work I would never see, never know. And after I crossed Texas Tech off my list, at least for now, it occurred to me for the first time that the original Lithium for Medea manuscript might be gone. As Braverman puts it in the novel, “even hard evidence isn’t enough to withstand the flow of time.”

     You don’t examine or study Lithium for Medea. At I didn’t. It’s a book, instead, that you feel and hear. A book that shifted my notion of history and family and identity enough that I sought to reexamine myself. I mean that the book captures the agony and joy of recovering partial histories from a Jewish family gone silent, burdens carried and messily lifted and sometimes re-dropped between women without ever entertaining academic language or high theory. Braverman didn’t need high theory. This was her real life, and it was also mine, though I didn’t have the language for this grief when I first encountered Lithium for Medea. My mother’s father died when she was twelve. His death, that I never knew him, is the central grief of her life. It is also the central grief of mine, though I didn’t have the language for this back then, either. My mother’s parents, my Iraqi-Jewish family, left so little behind. A few letters written in Arabic, a few photographs from my grandfather’s graduation at the University of Beirut. My mother does not even know her maternal grandmother’s name. In Lithium for Medea, Braverman turns toward intangible evidence to consider her family history and lineage because she has no other choice. My mother’s experience, my own, has been largely the same. She was my first divination teacher. I grew up with tarot cards and recorded dreams in my journals. I watched my mother as she searched for signs, asking to speak with the dead. Only much later did it occur to me that other people found this strange, profane even. I knew I’d never come close to understanding Kate Braverman by way of hard evidence—especially because she left so little behind. This did not frighten me. 

     Still, I found myself drawn into institutional archives. And one afternoon, a fourth sliver of light flashed in front of me. I was elbow deep in the Online California Archive database, trying to find Kate Braverman’s mother’s old radio talk show tapes. [3] Frustrated, I typed Lithium for Medea into the search bar, and the University of San Diego appeared. An old friend of Braverman’s had papers there, and though I couldn’t tell for sure, it seemed possible that he had a marked-up uncut draft of the novel, along with his notes. And so a few months later, to California I went, once again chasing hard evidence across states, hours along I-8. 

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Maybe it’s the non-plasticity of the institutional archive that’s kept me coming back. It promises us that if we look at a record long enough, hard enough, the right way, an answer, a lead will eventually reveal itself. This praxis really only serves the dead who have been preserved with integrity—the dead who held power while they were alive—and leaves marginalized scholars seeking stories of marginalized people in the cold. Because how can I expect the archive to help me liberate Kate Braverman from the obscene and dehumanizing descriptions (crazy, unhinged, cruel, unaware of her unraveling) when the very people and institutions who anchored her legacy are shaping the archives to which I am requesting access? When I was living and studying in New York, another writer looked at me during a workshop and asked, Why does Kate Braverman matter? It was not a rhetorical question, but something I was expected to prove. I needed hard evidence. 

     “The loss of stories sharpens our hunger for them,” Sadiya Hartman writes. “So it is tempting to fill in the gaps and provide closure where there is none. To create space for mourning where it is prohibited. To fabricate witness to a death not much noticed.” Hartman is grappling with a life unrecognized and unmourned—two girls aboard a slave ship on the Atlantic. She wants to imagine and write them as friends, but resists. “Initially I thought I wanted to represent the affiliations severed and remade in the hollow of the slave ship,” she attests. “But in the end, I was forced to admit I wanted to consolidate myself and to escape the slave hold with a vision of something other than the bodies of two girls settling on the floor of the Atlantic.” 

The historical violences about which Hartman writes, the absence and erasure, are unquantifiable. Kate Braverman has a name and documents and books, even if the documents are fractured, the books buried, her name hardly uttered. What Hartman offers me are not lives and violences comparable to Braverman’s, but the permission to walk away from the institutional archive when it’s dragging me in dizzying circles and look elsewhere, even if elsewhere is my imagination. The humility to parse the stories I am trying to finish for Braverman from the stories I’m trying to finish for myself. I do walk away from the library, before closing time, with nothing to show but an ink stain on my palm from a leaking pen. It was time to give up, not because the document was gone, but because it probably wasn’t. The first draft of Lithium for Medea exists somewhere. I’m sure of it. If not in a proper archive, then at the bottom of a retired executive’s old desk drawer; decaying in a Long Island landfill; shoved into a cookbook, bookmarking some farrow and watermelon salad best prepared in August. This is the trouble with archives, with writing histories of the undead. You don’t know your proximity to records, to hard evidence, to ghosts, until you do. Until one day you’re walking along the beach in San Diego, trying to find Kate Braverman, and you realize you already found her—sometime ago. I could search myself into madness, pursuing hard evidence that means very little. Probably, I did. 

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I don’t have addresses, but I think Kate spent a majority of her childhood living in the Sepulveda stuccos in the Palms neighborhood. Her world extended only as far as the Blue Bus Line went. Sometimes she rode to the Santa Monica pier and collected soda bottles for spare change. That was bus fare. On a good day, an ice cream cone too. The bay was very much alive to her. “My world was bounded by the ocean, the slow arc of the Santa Monica Bay gray and gyring beyond the breakwater,” she writes in Lithium for Medea. It is the ocean, in fact, that partially makes her protagonist think about hard evidence’s lack. “Once, I thought the hard evidence important and that a record of explanation must be left intact. Something undeniable, like trilobites a kind of permanent fetus etched in the center of Paleozoic rocks. The seas which they lived disappeared before collective human memory,” she writes. “But the seas still exist now, still their race their shadows toward some long eroded shore. There is proof. Salt deposits lie at the bottom of oceans. The seas have dried and returned. Again and again.”

     Later that evening, I’m laying in the ocean under a pink strata of fog stretching stretching stretching. I’m playing, really. There’s is no other word for this than playing, as I did when I was a child, the one week my parents took us camping in North Carolina. The ocean was always a novelty to me. I don’t think I’ve ever fully submerged myself in the Pacific Ocean, which as a child, people warned me was colder than the Atlantic. This is true, though nobody told me the Pacific was much bluer, too. 

     I’m surprised to find myself thinking about a line from one of Braverman’s 1977 poems, “Job Interview.” Loyal to its title, the poem moves through a series of historical (or perhaps ahistorical) questions. “You notice I checked measles. / My mother sewed red spots on / my rag doll. / It took her an entire day,” Braverman writes. “But you ask nothing about / winter. My father took me sledding. / He pulled me to the top of / hills. In vacant lots we found streams. That was in Philadelphia.” 

     But you ask nothing about winter. / My father took me sledding. / He pulled me to the top of hills. She’s asking “Do you see me beyond those stuccos on Sepulveda?” It’s a rare moment of decisive clarity. I’m not sure she always saw herself beyond the Sepulveda stuccos and later in life, I think she struggled to see herself beyond writing. Here, though, she’s asking “Can’t you see my joy?” Here, she’s placing evidence where there is supposed to be none. 

     In the Pacific, I’m not thinking about the archival letdown, and I’m not thinking about the Lithium for Medea manuscript either, drifting somewhere in backroom warehouse in La Jolla, or maybe nowhere whole at all. It only occurs to me that I have no idea whether or not Kate Braverman knew how to swim. This makes me sad. I wish I could ask her. I wish I could ask how often she touched the Pacific Ocean, how the water gutted and ravished and brought her back to life at the Santa Monica Pier where the Blue Bus Line and her entire world tapered to an end. 

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Sweating on a pull-out couch that night, I can’t get the bathroom window to close, and a guy across the street can’t start his truck. I hear him huffing and swearing as I drift in and out of sleep. Kate Braverman pays me a visit. We’re sitting at the table of a greasy spoon diner I only vaguely recognize, the curtains lined with lace, coffee mug stained with someone else’s lipstick. She is young and beautiful, brilliant and afraid, just as she was in 1979. 

     “Did you ever think about revisiting Lithium for Medea later in life?,” I ask her after a while. Our chairs are pulled from the table, and we’re facing one another. 

     Kate shakes her head. “No,” she says quietly. “It had to end there. You have to let it end.”  

     I think I always hoped that in finding Kate Braverman, I’d also find myself. And in finding myself, I’d find my grandfather, and the other Arab-Jewish women in my family whom I never knew, whose pain and joy I carry in my body, feel every day. This is what happened, just not in the way I expected. Because I don’t see myself in Kate Braverman and her work. Rather, I am in Kate Braverman, just as I am inside her work. We are entangled, and in that messy entanglement, I’ve also found the company of my mother’s father, my mother’s mother. And I wonder if it’s true that I never knew them. When there is nothing left to find, maybe the space to feel finally opens. 

     My mother taught me that the dead are always with us. Not judging us, not haunting us, and not always even guiding us. They are just there, lingering, holding time. I don’t have any hard evidence for you, but the older I get, the more I understand. Kate Braverman watched over every moment of my journey. She let me crash up against walls, walk blindly into oncoming traffic, run for days weeks months in the wrong cardinal direction. And then she calls out to me, ever so quietly, prompting me to reach her from some other road.

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Notes

[1]  “Milk Run” from Milk Run, Momentum Press, 1977

[2]  Credit to RP Bradley for this photograph, his terrific archive of Braverman photographs, and for being a terrific person in general. 

[3]  If you know anything about Millicent Braverman, please write to me!

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Leah Mensch is likely the world’s foremost Kate Braverman scholar. Find more at leahmensch.com. 

Dec 6: Maddie Norris, The Slap

 

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The Slap

Maddie Norris

“I have written many versions of this essay that leave out the slap,” Elvia Wilk writes, “but without the slap there is no story.” Wilk’s essay “Ask Before You Bite” traces the history of live action roleplay (larping) and the ways it can reinforce, reconstitute, or obliterate power dynamics. Larping is “like improvisational theater without an audience.” People inhabit characters, and the game occurs in that experience. Wilk participates, semi-begrudgingly, in a vampire larp, where her character agrees to be slapped in exchange for information. Players negotiate the level of simulation/reality of actions (i.e. do I actually bite you to turn you into a vampire? Kiss you? High-five you?), and in this particular game, on this particular night, both Wilk and her character agree to be hit. At the top of a metal staircase, she kneels before a man, a stranger, her hands pressed together, as if in prayer. He raises his palm and strikes her. “At that moment,” she writes, “I grasped the revelatory potential of all this artifice and performative negotiation.” 

     The slap is where meaning is made, and yet Wilk not only writes versions of this essay without the slap, she publishes one, too. I’ve taught this piece (with slap) three times to undergraduates, and, unsurprisingly, each time, a significant portion of the discussion revolved around the slap. The moment occurs over halfway through the over-twenty-page essay. Why wait so long to reveal it? Why write versions without it? Why tell us she’s done so? My students asked. Or rather, students in two of my three classes asked. The first time I taught this essay all the students were women; we didn’t ask these questions because we knew the answers. 

     When I walk into a new classroom, I look around knowing that by the end of the semester, at least one of the women seated before me will have been raped. Sometimes they’ll tell me; sometimes they won’t. One in four women in college is sexually assaulted. I was one in four. For us, consent is not a hypothetical question; it’s a physical reality. But “Ask Before You Bite” is less concerned with what it means to say no and be heard and more interested in what it means to say yes and mean it. It’s easy to see a woman as a victim, harder to see her as human.

     So why does Wilk wait to tell us? Why write versions without the slap? Why admit to doing so? Because to say what you want when that want involves violence is shameful. Margo Steines was the first friend I had who spoke about violent sex without embarrassment or bravado. She also happens to be a kick-ass writer. In “A Very Brutal Game,” she writes about the years she spent seeking men who would punch her in the face during sex. It started with an openhand slap: “There was a great crack of deafening blankness; there were stunned moments of temporary blindness and a shuffling stagger that gave way to buckled knees; there was a crumpled girl on a shitty fake Oriental rug with sweat everywhere and salted metal in the mouth and a flat, clean peace that was the best and quietest moment I’d ever experienced.” 

     In the slap, there’s revelation. 

     And isn’t that what the best essays do? Early on in my courses, students often reach towards a tidy ending, a bow, they call it, because they haven’t learned yet that a different coming together exists: a sharp point. The slap makes the theoretical collision of an essay material, which is to say, it hurts. “I wanted intensity,” Steines writes, “something fierce enough to puncture the suffocating cocoon of numbness I lived inside.”

     Think of Barthes’s punctum, “the element which rises from the scene, shoots out of it like an arrow, and pierces.” He’s talking about photos, but the punctum exists in writing too. It’s a small hole through which meaning pours. This puncture wound is personal; it pricks the façade and makes us feel. Before Wilk is slapped, the man who will hit her asks if he should take off his leather glove and rings. For me, this is the punctum, those small objects removed with care. I think of it when I come in from the cold and pull off my own leather gloves. The slap is pivotal, but without this quiet moment, to me, it isn’t poignant. 

     On the experience of being photographed, beheld, Barthes had this to say: “I am neither subject nor object but a subject who feels he is becoming an object: I then experience a micro-version of death (of parentheses): I am truly becoming a specter.” Try being a woman. We’ve been commodified into objects, but we don’t inhabit those objects, our bodies. We’re all surface. When I was raped, I disassociated, watched it happen from the fan twirling slowly above. All container, nothing contained. 

     Pain, on the other hand, pins me to my body. Through the wound, in I leak. The body does indeed keep the score, but consider we might not always be losing. Wilk quotes Bessel van der Kolk who says that “achieving any sort of deep intimacy—a close embrace, sleeping with a mate, and sex—requires allowing oneself to experience immobilization without fear.” I don’t think it’s the absence of fear but the absence of harm that’s necessary. Steines’s partner, a martial artist, says “If we’re in a fight, I don’t really want to hurt you…We’ve just decided to play a very brutal game.” To puncture is to let meaning in. It might be painful, but that doesn’t mean it’s harmful.

     The last time I had sex, I told him to be rougher. “Tell me if it’s too much,” he said. Soft light buzzed through the closed blinds. Downstairs, his cat meowed. In Jensen McRae’s song “Dead Girl Walking,” she sings, “Hey, will you hit me where it hurts? I won’t feel anything otherwise.” I kissed him and hoped for some kind of rapture.

     The word sublime comes from the Latin sublimis, sub meaning up to, limes meaning boundary or perhaps limens meaning threshold. The sublime happens at the edges of our understanding, our control. When asked why she sought out violence in bed, Steines writes, “The real, confounding truth is that I do not have an answer, only observations: in my body, violence has always brought a quickening of the pulse, a fresh tautness to the abdominal muscles, a soft ringing in the ears, the cresting rise in the chest of manic euphoria.” As a writer, I’m drawn to the thing that’s hard to look at, the thing that’s impossible to say. The truth, the sublime, is ineffable. The best essays explode the slap, pause it, slow it down, zoom in, zoom out. The best essays ask what is going on here? Why? They don’t take away the sting but revel in it. “The question is unanswerable,” Ta-Nehisi Coates writes, “which is not to say futile.” 

     Can there be gentleness in violence? We are deeply vulnerable in another’s hands, always. This intimacy is not just physical; it’s being seen in our wants and needs, a fragile body that in the split second after being hit cannot hide. At the start of each semester, I give my students a prompt from Natalie Goldberg: “Many have had great suffering, most of us, probably. Can you also notice the great tenderness at its edge?” There’s no masking pain. It’s a deeply human experience, and how embarrassing, to choose to be vulnerable. How terribly, terribly human.

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Maddie Norris, author of The Wet Wound: An Elegy in Essays (UGA Press), earned her MFA at the University of Arizona and, before that, was the Thomas Wolfe Scholar at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. Her essays have won the Literary Award in Creative Nonfiction from Ninth Letter and been named Notable in Best American Essays 2020 and 2022. Her work can be found in Guernica, Fourth Genre, and Territory, among others. She is a Visiting Assistant Professor at Davidson College.

Dec 5: Geramee Hensley, I Want to Live (A Timed and Unrevised Life)

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 I Want to Live (A Timed and Unrevised Life)

Geramee Hensley

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1. I only have an hour to write this, so I’ll make it quick.

In my final year of grad school, I began taking lithium because I wanted to die more than I wanted to write a book. Well, I wanted to die before that, but I couldn’t tell you exactly when I started to want to die except maybe it had to do with the moment air inflated my child-lungs like two swollen metaphors dragging the wreckage of language past my lips. I am going to say a lot of heavy-handed things like “the wreckage of language.” I am going to ask silly questions like “How much is my concept of home tied up in various “special sauces” that slather unrecognizable meat pucks in a handful of regional restaurants?” Above all, I am going to live. 

 

2. You awaken in a spaceship with a tadpole in your brain. 

This is not the latest RFK Jr. headline, but the premise for Baldur’s Gate 3, a 2023 role-playing game released by Larian Studios based on Dungeons & Dragons. After escaping the spaceship (originally, I wrote friendship) and making some sexy new friends/enemies, your first major quest is to alleviate yourself of the brain worm altering your physiology. The worm conducts a process known as ceremorphosis, transforming its host into a mindflayer (to the uninitiated, think purple Davy Jones from Pirates of the Caribbean only with psychic powers and way hotter). 

In my first playthrough of Baldur’s Gate 3, I believed the urgency the game sold to me. I went without rest (in and out of game) to delay my transformation. Resting, a gameplay mechanic carried over from DnD, crucially restores in-game resources increasing your odds of success against bugbears, cutlist goblins, gnolls, trolls, and the like. By not resting, I made the game way more difficult. I died a lot. I disappointed Lae’zel (my hot, pushy Githyanki girlfriend) with my inability to lead us to her crèche where her people could possibly help. I disappointed Shadowheart (my hot, goth religious fanatic girlfriend) with all my prying. I disappointed Astarian (my hot, twink Vampire boyfriend) every time I went a little too far out of my own way to aid another’s troubles. 

And I went out of my way a lot. Yes, I understand I need to get this worm out of my brain, but first I must make fun of this bugbear’s penis size while I barge into the barn where he’s having sex with a troll. I need to launch this deep gnome off the windmill just for fun before save scumming (saving just before an action or decision only to reload as needed to “fix” the outcome). Oh, and Shadowheart wants to share a bottle of wine with me tonight. Astarion wants to get lost and naked in the forest. Lae’zel describes how my battle-hardened scent stirs her desire. After much meandering, it became apparent to my party of adventurers that the ceremorphosis, for some reason, was not taking hold. I am not doing an adequate job of detailing just how many outcomes Baldur's Gate 3 contains, what with its over 17,000 endings. Every time I have played the game, it has been a different experience. But no matter the differences, there is no danger in transforming into a mindflayer in Act One. So rest away, adventurers. Meander. Do not make your life harder than it needs to be. 

3. You awaken in the desert with a book in your brain. 

In Dungeons & Dragons, you roll dice and pretend to be someone else. If you have not role-played—well, you have. You just have! Look at you, reading this on your phone or laptop, in a house or on a bridge, while driving, with a lover laying next to you, totally alone (except, I’m here, hi). I’m saying you did not come this far without playing a role. And maybe in that role-playing, if you’re like me, you seriously wanted to not wake up inside your own body anymore or not wake up at all for that matter. We in the business call that a critical fail, my kindred sibling. In the video game Final Fantasy Tactics, a character named Delita tells a princess to “blame yourself or God” when it comes to her being wrapped up in a wild political plot, and I choose to blame both. 

I have been Golgotha Vanukekali, the Goliath Barbarian, for nearly eight years now. After a series of bad dice rolls by Golgotha and comrades mid-grueling combat, Golgotha recently lost an arm. He seeks redemptive vengeance against his older brother who cut it off to use in some kind blood ritual. Golgotha has motivations. Convictions. A sense of justice. Golgotha has vision. 

Does Geramee? 

4. "But loneliness that deep gets into the marrow, Now that I'm here—among friends—I can feel it burning out of me. Little by little, step by step" —Karlach (Baldur’s Gate 3)

Something about being somebody else imparts into me a will to live. Paradoxically, when I roll a die, I want to live. My years as Golgotha, and perhaps my years as Geramee, too have inspired me to start my own DnD campaign, and I’ve had the pleasure of watching another group of misfits slowly form bonds. Friendships. I don’t think I’ll ever write about how role-playing personally feels to me a fundamentally trans activity. I meander. Or how in the invention of characters, I feel as though I am reinventing myself—that this impulse is not how everyone experiences fictional or “fantasy” products.  I meander. Or how our need for constant remakes of older media highlights our indulgence in nostalgia not simply as a “return” to something but a re-understanding of what that something is. A remake of ourselves. It’s all too on the nose. Besides, I meander. So maybe I’ll never finish the book-length projects I’m actually working on. Maybe I’ll die too early like my mother or keep on moseying no matter the urgency I feel rising over me like a moon-sized water balloon reaching capacity. Maybe someday I’ll write about friends (not the show) as those who remember you when you don’t recognize yourself. That it’s OK to not recognize yourself. That there’s more to yourself than just yourself. Baldur’s Gate 3 captures this perfectly in all of its sprawling outcomes—the disjointed intersection of personal histories, the element of chance in many social interactions: the (mis)fortune our hearts delight in with one another. 

If it has taught me anything, it’s that not even the ambition of would-be gods and the might of actual gods can stop gay people who have trauma bonded. 

5. “I lost my real briefcase. My whole life was in it.” —Tony Soprano (The Sopranos) 

So the quest that was so urgent (getting the worm out of my brain) turned out to be not so urgent. I meandered. Regretfully, I meandered here, too. I’ve been having gruesome nightmares lately (that are being treated). I don’t Rest so well. In Baldur’s Gate 3, you learn you have a dream guardian who protects you from ceremorphosis. Hence, all the meandering. The initial conflict in Baldur’s Gate 3 is not whether you will become a mindflayer but whether or not you want to continue to live under the threat of becoming one. It is a literary device that deletes all of one’s conviction, heart, and spirit and replaces it with monstrosity. 

In The Sopranos, dreams are used to convey core conflict in non-narrative, mostly aesthetic manners. Tony Soprano says, “there’s no geographical solutions to emotional problems,” but (spoilers) Tony gets a lot wrong. Like how emotional problems do have geography, and if that landscape resembles say New Jersey, (see metonym: America) your emotional problem is likely pretty violent. Most notably, in a coma dream, Tony refuses to give up his “business” symbolized in a briefcase. This refusal, because of Tony’s line of work, resolves to violence but also affirms his will to live. 

I’ll be the first to admit that I am not the boss of the New Jersey Mafia family, but I do feel a deep connection to my work. And if my own refusal to give it up bound me to violence, would I have the conviction of Tony Soprano? Don’t I already pledge myself to some level of violence? I meander. It’s not a great comparison, considering the refusal is resistance to imperialism which has more in common with Tony’s line of work than mine. Still, resistance is often violence, and I hope to have the strength to choose it (at least more often than I choose to blame myself or god).  So if my nightmares were a guardian, or a warning, or an emotional geography, what would they say about my own conflicts? 

Let me try to convince myself of something obvious by simply stating it, but also for you, the other consciousness in the room: there are things more important than writing, being “relevant,” that opportunity, your big break, the right time, the right place, the hunger & its feeding, your ego & its needing, your incorrect and correct perception of yourself (get over thyself said Socartes before the hemlock made him a memory), are we having fun yet asked Nickelback over & over again two months before 9/11, besides I am just getting started— 

There is this second and the next second: the steady, tangible, permanent hands on the imaginary clock rounding up a big swing—I mean hour. I mean uppercut. I mean watchout. Put your head on this pillow. Take a rest. It’s going to be a long dream. 

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Golgotha Vanukekali the Storm Herald Barbarian is Geramee, a writer, Social Media Manager for The Kenyon Review, and Poetry Editor for Tinderbox Poetry Journal. Visit geramee.com for more moseying and meandering. 

Dec 4, 2024: Kristine Langley Mahler, Joyful Girl

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Joyful Girl

after Ani DiFranco

I have cultivated a life that gives me pleasure every day! My astrological chart ruler is Venus—the planet of beauty and pleasure—which might be one reason why I am the way I am, but I have been relying on astrology a little too long as an explanation. I guess it just does not feel radical to give myself pleasure, to go in search of joy. I think we all deserve pleasure, even when we have to throw up horse blinders to focus on the carrot instead of the world around us.

The world is all around me, but because I am an American, I was born believing I deserve joy and pleasure, even if it comes at someone else’s expense. My family has had many years of grifted pleasure: two of my immigrant ancestors were born in 1620 at Kebec and Patuxet, and then their parents moved ashore and announced that North America was their land now. The repetitive use of horse blinders to see only what we want to see has been encoded into twelve and thirteen generations of my family DNA. That’s right: I said thirteen. I don’t know if it is lucky or a curse to be me, so I try to find joy where I can, because after four hundred years of my family claiming home on someone else’s home, I am certain that the world owes me nothing.

Sixteen years ago, I bought a house with all the space I will ever need. My house is filled with windows that harness and pull light inside to illuminate most of my day, because my house is located in a part of the United States that gets 214 days of sunlight a year. Yes, we get snow in the winter, but it is still sunny, blinding light reflecting off the crust and obscuring the ice beneath. That’s all right. I like my life. I wake up as my spouse and kids are leaving the house for the day. I roll out of bed and take my dissolvable acid reflux medication and, if it pleases me, I take out my journal and light a candle in the dark to write before I look at my phone. That way, I can tell myself I did something productive today, no matter what. 

But I am always productive! Before I write, I start the water for my tea, I feed my guinea pig, I let my dog outdoors for the first of many times. I stack the dishes from breakfast, I wipe down the counters, I start a load of laundry, and then I sit down to write. If I do it all right, everything comes out even and I’m ready to write just as my tea is done steeping. I like to write until it gets light outside, but I also like to write down only one page’s worth of thoughts. Sometimes I transcribe my dreams, another practice I should stop relying upon. I have been using astrology and my own dreams as guideposts for many years, but I do not want to look inside myself much longer because I like myself more when I am a joyful girl, and the bathroom mirror has not budged. The woman who lives there can tell the truth. 

I do my Duolingo French lessons because it gives me a lot of pleasure to see the number click over every day—evidence of my dedication to completion. My streak is up to 857 days in a row, and Duo never has a chance to get mad at me because I do my lessons early. I studied Latin in high school because I was going to be an archaeologist, but then I changed my mind and the dead language rusted inside me. So for my fortieth birthday, I decided to learn a new language—the language of my ancestor who was born at Kebec. J’étudiais le français pour plus de deux ans et je ne veux pas arrêter! 

I sit in front of the computer in my office, which is probably the prettiest room in my house with the eastern morning light streaming under cherry built-in bookshelves over the windows. Yes, I have an office, and I have a job that barely pays me anything. Sometimes I think I am mostly a stay-at-home parent, but my daughters are all adolescents now and they have not needed me to stay at home for at least ten years. Sometimes I think I am mostly a stay-at-home wife, but when I said I was stacking the breakfast dishes earlier, I meant I was stacking them for either my spouse or my children to do when they get home, because I have a list of chores I do to contribute to the running of our house, and I only do my share. This is just the way it goes.

The job that I do is directing a small press, and I pay myself a laughable amount of money per month because it is more important to me that the press remain sustainable and keep our books in print than that I pay myself something reasonable. I did the numbers once; I don’t want to do them again, but I think it worked out to something like two dollars an hour. That’s all right, because I love my life! I do it for the joy it brings to see our authors’ joy as their dreams are bound between two matte softcovers; we owe each other the world, if we can manage to give it. And I can manage to give it to them because my spouse is able to keep our household’s expenses covered. 

So I check the emails that have come into my work inbox, and then I check the emails that have come into my personal inbox, and then I go to both of my social medias and check them, and then I go to both of the press’s social medias and check them. There are always likes and hearts and comments! It is nice to feel loved! 

Then I read other people’s social media posts so that I know what’s going on in the world, because while my life brings me joy, it is pretty isolated. I can spend a whole day speaking aloud only to my family, and that doesn’t happen until they come home. So I read my emails, and I check social media, and I print and mail book orders for the press, and I keep the other books in production still in production, and then it is 10 o’clock, and it is time for me to do something that brings me only a little joy, which is trying to stay in shape. 

I am still in my pajamas at 10 o’clock because I know I am going to sweat, so I go downstairs and I turn on whatever Netflix series I’ve been watching as a carrot to keep me on the treadmill—recently it’s been the latest season of Outer Banks, because I still love archaeological treasure hunts—and I begin walking at the 3.7 mph speed, which is just enough to make me start sweating after eight minutes. I walk at that speed for two miles and when I am done, I take off my shirt and I wipe down my body and my face and then I come upstairs and I weigh myself, even though I cannot believe that I have to sweat five times a week simply to not gain weight—that I don’t lose any weight after all that work—but that is called being 42 years old. Would I prefer the easy way? Well, okay, then.

Then I get dressed, and I have a hard-clad rule with myself that I have to wear hard pants for eight hours, just like everyone else who works. I am starving by this point so I have a snack, like a protein bar from the Nature Valley box I get at Costco, and I pour myself another glass of water. Then I sit down and I write again, but usually I check social media instead. Sometimes I wonder if everything I do I do instead of something I want to do more. That keeps me occupied until it is 11:30, and that sounds like close enough to lunch time for me. So I head into the kitchen and get myself two snacks this time, because I don’t eat a real lunch, I just eat snacks all day! If I did not have a spouse to make me dinners, I would never eat a real meal.

I eat my lunch snacks, and then I top them off with a package of fruit snacks because I like to be left with a sweet taste in my mouth; that brings me joy. Then I sit down and I read a book. Sometimes I can’t believe that part of my daily routine is sitting and reading during a time of day when I think everyone else is working. It seems like something I would judge in another person. Everything I do is judged and mostly gotten wrong, but oh well—reading keeps me joyful.

I read for an hour, and then I go back to my laptop, check social media for twenty minutes, and I write again. Or I check social media for a full hour, see that it is 2 o’clock, and realize that my day is winding down. Then I grab a seltzer from the fridge, the packages I need to mail for the press, and I leave the house to start picking up my children. I drive around my city for an hour and a half on weekdays, picking up one, then two, then three daughters. Sometimes, they have after-school activities and that complicates the pick-up schedule and I end up driving for more like two and a half hours, killing time in parking lots by checking social media on my phone, but the world owes me nothing: I chose this life and I love it! 

I come home and preside over my adolescent daughters’ practice of immediately going into their bedrooms and checking their phones. Sometimes, if I want them to feel joyful, I have made cookies during that earlier 1 o’clock to 2 o’clock hour instead of checking social media. Sometimes. For the rest of the afternoon, I sit in the living room and am present, kind of, on my phone a lot but when my kids pass through, I ask them questions about their day. It seems to give them pleasure. 

When my spouse gets home, if it is a weekend, it is cocktail time! We drink varying types of cocktails: my favorite Friday night cocktail is called a Blue Moon, and it is made of gin and crème de violette and lemon juice. My spouse likes olive martinis. I shake us up cocktails and we get a little buzzed while he makes dough for homemade pizza, and by the time the pizza is complete, I am ravenous and I would eat anything. Then he and I will often go out for a walk. My favorite walks are the ones we take in the winter because it is fully dark out. When everything else seems unclear, it is nice to be out in the dark with somebody who gives me pleasure. 

We get home, we hang out in the living room for another couple of hours as our daughters pass in and out, and then my spouse and I go downstairs and watch a movie or part of a show. We do not watch movies as a family very often because every time we have tried, we realize how stupid the movies of our childhood and adolescence were, or the kids are bored, or they want us to watch some inane cartoon that means nothing to us, so it’s easiest to keep our TV viewings separate. I know there’s no grand plan here but I think, sometimes, about how we are all seeing only what we want to see.

Then it’s time for a shower, one of my favorite parts of the day, one I never miss. Standing in hot water always gives me a lot of pleasure. It feels good to be warm and alone, even though I am warm and alone most of the day. Sometimes my spouse joins me in the shower, and we take turns scrubbing each other’s backs. It feels good to know someone is getting all the grime I cannot reach off a part of me I cannot reach. I wonder, again, if everything I do I do instead of something I should do more. I get dressed into my pajamas, and then I climb into bed beside my spouse. The best nights to climb into bed are Sunday nights because that’s clean sheets night, especially if I dried the sheets outside on the clothesline so they smell like home. I turn on my side and spoon into my spouse, putting my hand on his hip because it’s the least I can do, because of the joy it brings. I pull the comforter up to eye-level like a horse blinder, blocking out any ghosts that might have slipped into the room, in case I wake up before I want to.

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Kristine Langley Mahler seeks joy on the suburban prairie outside Omaha, Nebraska. The author of three nonfiction books, A Calendar Is a Snakeskin (Autofocus, 2023), Curing Season: Artifacts (WVU Press, 2022), and Teen Queen Training (forthcoming with Autofocus, 2026), Kristine is also the director of Split/Lip Press. Her work may be found at kristinelangleymahler.com or @suburbanprairie (ON BLUESKY!)

Dec 3, 2024: Nicole Walker, No Authority, Just Thanks

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This is part of our yearly Advent Calendar, which publishes an essay a day each year during advent. Find the rest of this year's and previous years' calendars here. 

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A year ago, I submitted a book proposal to Bloomsbury Academic called “How to Write the Hard Stuff.” Because it is the academic arm of the press, based in London, the proposal was sent to leaders in the field. British field leaders, who I find daunting and foreign. The leaders in their field had concerns that I was not an expert in trauma, so where did my authority lie? I revised the proposal clarifying that I wasn’t writing a book about how writing is cathartic or therapeutic, but that writing is important and empowering because it allows you to take control of your narrative. I wasn’t planning on being the authority. I am just one writer who has chosen various and sundry techniques of telling my story that might help others shape their own. My authority is usually only in the personal narrative, which is why I write creative nonfiction and why I’m not a politician. I resubmitted the proposal, promising that I was no authority indeed.

The second version passed muster. Unfortunately, I learned this in May. The book would be due in September. My editor, Lucy, was sorry it took so long to get the contract together. She gave me a little extra time—September 30th instead of September 1st.

I had been writing all winter and spring anyway. I had been on sabbatical and worked on a few books—How to Plant a Billion Trees, which is the story upon which Writing the Hard Stuff is based. Also, I revised a novel which I’m revising again as we speak. Perhaps with the 15th revision, I’ll get this where it needs to be! But that is beside the point because I did indeed have to put the novel aside to work on this Writing the Hard Stuff book. I thought I just needed to revise some older essays, but as I dug in, I realized I had to write a whole new book.

So I typed. And revised. And read the book aloud. I was almost done when the semester started. I had the big thread and the tiny threads woven throughout. I had calls forward and responses back. I had little jokes littered throughout. But I also had to start teaching my nonfiction class. Do you know what a group of nonfiction students needs? They need to know how to write the hard stuff. They also need to know how to analyze a text critically. So I asked them to bring something from the text for class discussion. If I was the kind of teacher that lorded authority over my students’ heads, this might be an imposing request. But because my main mode of teaching is beginning each day with the foibles of Nicole—from telling them stories about how I got the heel of my boot in caught in the hem of my pants, making me slip down the stairs, to how, right before I was to speak at an event, I spilled wine down my shirt, the fact that in each of my novels, at least one character is named Zach, or the time I had a typo in my Essay Daily essay, my students don’t have a problem telling me what they really think.

The students read with devotion and care. I had never met these particular students before, but I have been teaching at NAU for 15 years. I know NAU students to be intelligent, kind, and wise. I don’t know exactly why I’m so lucky to have such students, but it has never been not true. I’ve had different kinds of studiers—all nighters, right before classers, never studiers—but the attitude they bring is one of openness and generosity. I do teach creative writing, which might explain it. Creative writing is a class students elect to take. It counts as a general education course and, if they follow the track, the classes count as an emphasis toward an English Major. But even if the course is generally made of folks who definitely want to be there, I’m not sure why they are so collectively smart and thoughtful. They didn’t have to exert themselves.  The only graded part of this assignment was to offer a discussion question for the class. But exert themselves they did.

Some responded a lot. Some, a little. But as we spent the semester studying what I meant by hard stuff (everything) and what I meant by writing (so much), we had a document from which to work in which everyone had a little invested. From there, the students wrote 5 essays over the next 5 weeks. To these essays I gave extensive feedback, as did their fellow students. We responded to essays about eyeglasses and seashells, bike riding and growing up near the ocean, the green bottles of Rolling Rock and stories about what a pain in the ass other people are and our own bodies can be.

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I’m not allowed to talk about politics in the classroom although I am allowed to encourage students to register and vote. But they know the personal is political. I can nod with them when they feel disaffected or nihilistic. I can receive commiserating glances when the end of the world seems to be knocking at our door. Perhaps that is what makes these students so great—it’s not that they’re all the same or that they all care about politics or that they all trust me to be their teacher. It’s that they’re willing, to read each other’s work, and mine. They know everyone has a story and it is often a hard one. They’re here to listen to that story and help shape it and to listen to it again. There is as much reading and listening in the class as there is writing and talking. It’s a trust circle. A partnership. A committee. A collective. A community. Every semester I go in expecting it. I’m surprised I’ve never been disappointed. And I am grateful to each of my students every single day. Also. They read Essay Daily. Which is another generosity and another way to build on what we’ve begun.  

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NICOLE WALKER is the author of several books, plus one forthcoming, Writing the Hard Stuff, from Bloomsbury Books. She has written several essays for The New York Times and is a noted author in several editions of Best American Essays. She edits the Crux series of nonfiction at the University of Georgia press. She teaches creative writing and serves as Writer-in-Residence for the Center for Ecosystem Science and Society at Northern Arizona University.

Dec 2, 2024: Kathleen Rooney, Perfect Days in Imperfect Times

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This is part of our yearly Advent Calendar, which publishes an essay a day each year during advent. Find the rest of this year's and previous years' calendars here. 

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A couple of the many reasons why I enjoy writing in all genres, but especially essays, are:

1. a desire for a sustained period of peaceful stability, and
2. an attraction to a structured rhythm, 

neither of which is always possible to maintain in life.

In the introduction to their certain-to-be-indispensable Rose Metal Press Field Guide to the Lyric Essay (coming out in 2027 and seen so far only by Abby Beckel and me, their editors), Heidi Czerwiec and Lee Ann Roripaugh explain the lyric essay expansively as “creative nonfiction that uses an essay form, but is lyric in function, meaning that it pays special attention to patterning in language—to resonances of sound and imagery.”

On election night, rather than torturing ourselves by obsessively refreshing the returns, my spouse and fellow writer Martin Seay and I watched Wim Wenders’ 2023 movie Perfect Days, an elegant spiritual drama about a fifty-something bachelor and Tokyo public toilet cleaner named Hirayama, played by Kōji Yakusho. 

My friend, DePaul colleague, and fellow Poems While You Wait poet Eric Plattner (who shares my affinity for hybrid genres) recommended the film. It’s a movie with characteristics of a lyric essay, kind of like those of Agnes Varda, in which the calm, gently comic, forgiving focus on people and the places where they live provides maps to their subjects’ inner lives, honoring the subtle interior shifts we all experience, even if these feel small in comparison to the cataclysms of geopolitics or whatever. 

The movie Perfect Days is fiction but feels at times like a documentary thanks to Wenders’ attention to the minutiae of this particular guy’s day-in-day-out dedication to a literally shitty job that he performs with more intention and care than a lot of people ever dedicate to anything. 

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The toilets themselves work almost as supporting actors, beautifully designed and sculptural, looking as much like tiny houses you might want to live in or art installations you might pay to see as they do mere public amenities. 

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In fact, the movie originated because “Wenders had been invited to Japan as the guest of a prominent Japanese businessman who hoped that the director might want to make a series of short films featuring the toilets, which had been conceived as showcases for Japanese artistry and hygienic mastery.”  

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Wenders instead decided he wanted to make a feature-length film about a fictional character, but the toilets appear and re-appear in a meticulous pattern, punctuating the story of Hirayama and underscoring his own meticulousness.

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Wenders uses repetition to show how Hirayama—in his humble apartment in the shadow of the Tokyo Skytree and at the toilets he tends to in the high-end Shibuya district—creates a structured rhythm within the chaos of the city, carving out his own patch of peaceful stability. 

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Over and over again, we see him wake at dawn without an alarm, roll up his sleeping mat, brush his teeth, wash his face, spritz his beloved plants, don his blue coveralls, attach his numerous toilet keys, purchase his coffee from a vending machine, and drive his van to work while listening to cassettes of Patti Smith, Otis Redding, and the Animals. 

Gradually, lyrically, Wenders blends variations into this repetition, showing how little obstacles—his flaky co-worker quitting and leaving Hirayama to spend a day cleaning all the toilets solo, his niece coming to crash at his tiny apartment after a fight with her wealthy mother, Hirayama’s sister—sometimes disrupt his clockwork, but never keep him from doing his job or stop him from being steady and kind to everybody he comes in contact with, including the trees in the parks where he works and the users of the toilets who interrupt him at his cleaning.

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The combination of documentary and lyrical techniques made the movie feel not just essayistic but also ritualistic, as much a meditation as a narrative, and made me think a lot about structure—structuring a life and structuring a story. True care and attention—showing up reliably and noticing what’s there—are basically sacred but essentially rare in art and in life. 

Using the patterning that Czerwiec and Roripaugh cite to create resonances of sound and imagery, Wenders manages to effectively dramatize and celebrate the less flashy but noble aspects of being an ethical person.

There’s a trend of what I’ve come to call neglect-masquerading-as-care where people fail to show up and support others in the ways they said they would do, while spinning this unreliability as concern: teachers letting students not turn in work—work that would help them learn and grow and take them outside of themselves and into other worldviews—because the student is vaguely “struggling” (and/or the teacher doesn’t want to have to do feedback), for instance, or bailing on commitments to friends and loved ones and declaring it self-care. It’s unpopular to say, probably, but: that sucks. That behavior sucks. It lets everybody down, including the bailer, and is the flat-out opposite of true care, because making demands—as in challenging oneself and others to commit and see something through—is a form of love. 

Perfect Days, with its structured rhythm matching that of its lowkey heroic protagonist, feels compelling because it’s life-affirming to watch a work of art that is in huge part a reflection on keeping your word and showing up and giving your all no matter what. 

I used to think that just showing up and paying attention were pretty low bars, but lately I think they are everything.

It’s hard to talk about stuff like this without sounding self-important or righteous. Wisely, Wenders almost never has Hirayama talk. In the way a lyric essay can use white space and leave stuff out, the script trusts audiences to get the point without excess explanation. Yakusho—who won Best Actor at Cannes—plays Hirayama with the expressiveness, humor, and pathos of a silent movie performer. 

As such, we see that he’s the kind of special person who notices and appreciates—or as needed ameliorates—whatever a situation presents. He takes a film photograph of a tree every day on his lunch break, for example. He uses a small mirror like a dentist would use to see if there’s anything gross encrusted on the underside of a given toilet seat, then scrubs vigorously. 

For leisure, Hirayama frequents the cheap paperback section of his neighborhood bookshop. Whenever he checks out, the woman who runs the shop offers some comment on his selection. As he purchases a book by Ayo Kōda, she says, “she deserves more recognition. She uses the same words we do yet there’s something so special.”

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Because Hirayama so seldom speaks, when he does, his words carry extra weight. As he and his niece are riding their bikes along the Sumida River, she tries to start planning her next visit, but he reminds her “Next time is next time! Now is now!” They repeat it back and forth, a playful chant between them.

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Shot by shot, toilet by toilet, Perfect Days shows one guy—deserving more recognition, using the same materials we do—riding through assorted indignities and vicissitudes, but persisting with his own essential interests and desires. There are lots of ways to give rhythm to one’s life, one’s art, and to keep showing up and being awesome in a world full of shit. 

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Kathleen Rooney is a founding editor of Rose Metal Press, a nonprofit publisher of literary work in hybrid genres, and a founding member of Poems While You Wait, a collective of poets and their typewriters who compose commissioned poetry on demand. She is the author of the novels Lillian Boxfish Takes a Walk and Cher Ami and Major Whittlesey, and her latest poetry collection Where Are the Snows, winner of the XJ Kennedy Prize, was released in Fall of 2022 by Texas Review Press. Her latest novel, From Dust to Stardust, came out in September 2023, and her picture book Leaf Town Forever, co-written with her sister Beth Rooney, is forthcoming. She lives in Chicago and teaches at DePaul.